Put It All Together: Confessions of a Blended Family

My husband and I were married 14 years ago (this October) and to this union, I brought 3 children and he brought none (What was he thinking).  Blending a family can be a job all in itself, but the key is to make sure (before you enter into the convenient of marriage) that you both are on one accord, because if not…well you know what is destined to happen.

• Blending a Family Takes Patience & Lots of LOVE 

When I married my husband, my daughter was 10, my first son was 5 and my last son was 3. The kids didn’t want him there and I think sometimes he didn’t want to be there, but he stuck it out and stayed the course.  What made me love him more was that even though my kids were giving him a run for his money, he continued to love them and show them love.  In 14 years, I have never heard him introduce my children as his step kids – he’s always called them my kids (our children).  He didn’t have to do that since my children had a father who was active in their lives.

• Blending a Family Has To Be a JOINT VENTURE

In the beginning, I felt that my husband was the one that had to adjust to us since we were already a family before he came.  That is furthest from the truth, it’s a joint venture – it takes everyone being on one accord and respecting where each other are coming from.  That is not something that happens over night – trust me when I tell you. I had to adjust to how my husband did things and he had to do the same for me.  The kids also had to understand that my husband and I stand on one front together.

I always share that being a wife and a mom have been the two most rewarding things I have every done in my life, however they have equally been the two hardest things I have ever done.